Mark's R-Rated S.E.X. Blog: A Video Blog by Mark S. King

Mark S. King
January 28, 2009

Mark's R-Rated S.E.X. Blog
A Video Blog

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When I got my nipples pierced about three years ago, I was fresh out of drug rehab and wanted to make a provocative gesture that said "They can take away the meth but I'm still a sexual being, dammit!" Getting solid gold rings only added to the "investment" in my acting out. And, yeah, piercing unlikely places on your body ... hurts.

No one has seen my bedazzled nips lately, unless a glance in the gym locker room counts. My body jewelry has outlasted my sexual appetite, it appears, because this former card-carrying Sex Pig has left the pen and shaken off the mud. In other words, maturity (and sexual dysfunction from the emotional scars of meth addiction) has won out.

And then I noticed that an otherwise benign article on The Body, "Sex Pigs" Campaign Creates Space for Sexually Adventurous Australian Men to Talk About HIV Risk, became the most widely read article on the site for a time! Is there a thirst for information on high-risk activity? Or do we gravitate to potentially sexually explicit content out of pure habit?

Whatever the case, I'm nothing if not a whore for readership, so I'm going to play in the mud again -- playfully is the key word here. In the process maybe I can exorcise some of my own demons of my slutty past. Self-indulgent may not begin to describe it, but screw 'em if they can't take a joke, especially a dirty one.

And so, behold! Solid gold nipple rings on an aging gay cliché!

Meanwhile, my patient and loving friends, please be well.

Mark

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Episode Six: Mark's R-Rated S.E.X. Blog

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Comment by: Jen (San Francisco) Sat., Jun. 20, 2009 at 10:14 pm EDT
Meet me at the NYC Human Sexuality Conference August 15-16, 2009. http://www.conference00.com New York City the best place for sex conference.

Comment by: Gary Winingham (Omaha, NE) Thu., Jun. 4, 2009 at 1:17 pm EDT
Hey Mark...I think you are totally awesome! A co-worker sent me a copy of this blog and video. I am the Education Manager with Nebraska AIDS Project who struggles with educating the gay population in our community. Your messages are power, humorous and straight to the point effective. Keep up your good work to keep other gays from becoming HIV+. You are inspitational to me. Thanks.

Comment by: Ricardo (Caracas) Sun., Apr. 26, 2009 at 10:36 pm EDT
Does a PA Make you a sex pig? I mean, from the point of view of the image...

Comment by: Juan (Spain) Fri., Apr. 24, 2009 at 3:34 am EDT
Gosh! That beginning was hilarious... THANKS FOR DOING THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!, came across your blog half hour ago... this is the fourth video I've watched today... I gotta stop cause I have my doctor's appointment and I'm like fastened to this chair... ok... THANKS for being so open... lots of love!!

Comment by: Mark (Spokane, WA) Sat., Feb. 14, 2009 at 10:37 am EST
i've got that warm, electric feeling inside -- this will be great. thanks man! mark

Comment by: Drew (Sydney, Australia) Sat., Feb. 14, 2009 at 1:40 am EST
Oh mark I love your video blogs. Keep up the good work. Cheers Drew ( Sydney , Australia) p.s. When is Anita Man making a comeback to your Blogs...she was sooo funny!! hahaha

Comment by: Lee Jewell (San Francisco, CA) Tue., Feb. 10, 2009 at 12:26 pm EST
I appreciate Mark's honesty. Mark advocates disclosure and harm reduction with his partners, something I personally subscribe to. If strongly feel if we all did this, we would do a better job taking care of one another.

Comment by: Mark (ann arbor, mi) Mon., Feb. 9, 2009 at 3:37 pm EST
You really hit home about how we feel being HIV+. Interjecting a sense of humor makes it sail out of the park. Your time for nonstop sex with someone you love will cum in time, you are too amazing of a personality. Don't EVER lose your sense of humor...makes me wish I still lived in Atlanta!!! All the Best

Comment by: Cipri Martinez (Perth Western Australia) Sun., Feb. 8, 2009 at 9:26 pm EST
Hi Mark, your blog was funny with some education, and i think you were being honest about how you felt too, however i reacted to your declaration that your sex pig dead. I sometimes identify as a sex pig and as a person living with HIV continue to enjoy my sex pig activites, perhaps with some adaptions depending on who it's with. So i would like to declare the sex pig alive, well and thriving, able to protect other when appropriate, able to respect choices of others when appropriate and still able to be filthy dirty sex pig enjoying it all. Keep up the honesty, think about inviting some people to dance with you next time. Ciao bello

Comment by: Brian (Long Island) Sat., Feb. 7, 2009 at 11:41 pm EST
Wonderful! Keep dancing...

Comment by: Crispin Hollings (San Francisco) Sat., Feb. 7, 2009 at 9:20 pm EST
Mark - I love your video! Parts made me laugh out loud, though I especially love what you say about your sex pig being dead. My own sex pig has also passed on or is at least taking a long hiatus. It probably also has to do with recovery which I've resented since coming into the rooms. So it's really helpful to hear your articulate your own experience and makes feel so much better about my own similar evolution. RE asking about HIV status - it approaches the absurd when asked through a glory hole (really funny!) but I think it is one way - albeit imperfect - to mitigate risk. I really appreciate you bringing your blog to my attention. And I really appreciate your condolences and your kind words about Eric - I'm sure he's rejoicing in the heavens that his work influenced such a funny sexual piece. I can't wait to see your next work!

Comment by: Ken (Des Moines, Iowa) Sat., Feb. 7, 2009 at 11:09 am EST
First time visitor, loved your sense of humor about the topic. Makes me think more about joining my local HIV+ Gay Men's Support Group. I think I may need their help and they may need yours. Keep up the good works!!

Comment by: Kristen (Baghdad, Iraq) Sat., Feb. 7, 2009 at 6:26 am EST
I enjoy all your blogs, Mark. Your wit and truth keep me coming back for more, even all the way over here in Iraq. Gold nipple rings on an aging gay cliche'.. now that's just hot. I love the facial hair too!

Comment by: Mark King (Los Angeles, CA) Fri., Feb. 6, 2009 at 7:26 am EST
Hi Mark King this is Mark King...well that's a line I can honestly say I've never used on anyone other than you and perhaps my diary. I've been watching and enjoying your video blog lately. I hope you found some peace and resolution with your visit to Ft. Lauderdale. Most of us never get, or take, the opportunity to revisit a past relationship with our ex's - for myself, it's just as well, the homicide rate is high enough without any assistance on my part - however tempting and justifiable hehe. I enjoyed your glory hole diatribe. If ever asked, 'Are you neg or poz?', I have always replied by asking them what difference should it make and that rather then rely on the truthfulness of a stranger they most likely will not see again and how well the stranger, if they are positive, is mentally and emotionally dealing with their status. Rather, if they automatically assume every partner to be positive and act according they would never have to ask such a question. Keep the goatee, it works for you babe it really does. Happy trails name doppelganger... Cheers, M.K.

Comment by: Barsio (Barcelona Spain) Fri., Feb. 6, 2009 at 5:42 am EST
Everybody says it and it's true, you are humorous and educational, but let me tell you: You're very sexy tooÂ?

Comment by: Russell Hall (Atlanta Georgia) Thu., Feb. 5, 2009 at 8:36 pm EST
Dear Mark, I love being a pig in bed... in a good way. Intimacy is great and making sweet love to an attractive guy is a wonderful thing. I agree that some people need to keep the pig alive by being responsible. Talk to your partners and tell them that you're affected by HIV or AIDS... honesty is SUCH A TURN ON!!!! Romance and intimacy are a totally different animal than raw sexual magnetism and the old "STRIKE IT WHILE IT's HOTTTT!!!" instinct of raw masculine lust. Both are incredible and beautiful branches of the human sexuality -- and they are equally dangerous... Let's face it -- taking a walk at night is dangerous too in this day and age. I am not putting my pig in it's grave... I am training it. I LOVE SEX - I LOVE CUDDLING - I LOVE MEN. In the privacy of my home, safely with a regular friend, partner or fellow piddy - let the good times SQQUEEAAALLLL. Responsibly - let my passion be a revolving door for the repeat visitor that just might develop into the relationship I would love to have. When it comes to drugs - I am an open minded person. If you have a problem, get help... if you don't like drugs, don't do them and if you don't like people who do drugs.... don't associate with them. I think our government has taken liberties with human choice and privacy I don't necessarily agree with. I have experimented with many things in my life and I don't feel that I desire to destroy myself with negative habits. I don't want to stop living and loving.... I want to move forward with passion to a happy lifestyle. Maybe I want to move to a more liberal country with better human rights - but at any rate I feel that your video was educational and thought provoking. It made me think... but you don't have to have drugs to cruise... meet someone on the internet and have a massage!!! Your sexuality is yours to enjoy... don't let the love die or the passion fade away. You better mind your FLAME - cause without it your life will never be the same. -D'Advocate.

Comment by: Gesundheitsamt (Germany) Thu., Feb. 5, 2009 at 11:47 am EST
Just a compliment from overseas for your great blog! Your videos give me a lot of background information I can use when counselling gay clients, since I am a heterosex. female. The way you talk they often do not dare to talk by themselves. But having listened to your talks, I can ask the right questions and coax them out of the corner (?can you say so in english? Anyway, I hope you get, what I mean.)

Comment by: Luis (New York) Thu., Feb. 5, 2009 at 9:49 am EST
About a year ago, I have read your article where you had sex with Rock Hudson as well. You have been around boy. And so have I. Keep up the good work and the positive attitude. I have thought before that my sex pig is dead, and then it resurrects. I personally think this will happen to you as well. Thank you for your honesty.

Comment by: Jessica (Oregon) Wed., Feb. 4, 2009 at 8:39 pm EST
Loved your video blog! I loved what you said at the end, that it is about respecting yourself! I feel that if I loved and respected myself 14 years ago rather than being worried about having a man love me, or at least not chasing a false feeling of love by substituting it for sex. Thanks for sharing!

Comment by: TONY C (NYC) Wed., Feb. 4, 2009 at 8:33 pm EST
Thanks Mark:::I think "my sex pig is dead" hit home with me a bit...because if/when I do hook up, I like it to be hot but am a pig at heart...and therefore haven't had sex for over three years, it's way too much trouble for me to be worrying whether that person is/has practiced safe sex and all the STD's etc....it's a real "turn off"!...saying ALL THAT..I still need that intimacy every once in a while...I'm not BF material as I like my solitude but I do LOVE SEX!!...so I may hire a hustler and have been thinking about it...most in NYC are safe and know how to play safe...well it will be the first thing that is discussed. Thanks for the video...my first I've ever watched on this site Tony(nyc)

Comment by: Daniel (San Francisco, CA) Wed., Feb. 4, 2009 at 8:17 pm EST
My compliments. You hit several nails on the head. I have never heard anyone speak so many of the truths that I struggle with....and I thought I was alone. Bacio e abbraccio. (Kiss and hug) Daniel

Comment by: Wayne (Toronto Ontario Canada) Wed., Feb. 4, 2009 at 8:14 pm EST
Hi Mark: Many thanks for this, yes, thank you for sharing and confronting these ideas so candidly. Best wishes to you! Wayne

Comment by: john (spain) Wed., Feb. 4, 2009 at 7:27 am EST
another great blog,funny but true.

Comment by: maichobia (Iraq) Sun., Feb. 1, 2009 at 3:14 am EST
www.thebody.com - great domain name for blog like this)))

Comment by: Dave (New York City) Sun., Feb. 1, 2009 at 1:02 am EST
you're hilarious!!! I'm gagging (...with laughter.) Hope you find that "guy." I'm still looking. blogs.poz.com/dave/ www.davidcapogna.com

Comment by: Leland (Atlanta) Fri., Jan. 30, 2009 at 7:22 pm EST
Wow! And to think I almost deleted the email. Cool.. Really Cool. Be safe and have fun.

Comment by: Charles (Atlanta) Fri., Jan. 30, 2009 at 9:25 am EST
An great mix of entertainment, education frankness and honesty.

Comment by: Easedselugs (Moldova) Fri., Jan. 30, 2009 at 8:13 am EST
Hello, I can't understand how to add your blog ( www.thebody.com ) in my rss reader

Comment by: Tom Maloney (Atlanta) Thu., Jan. 29, 2009 at 10:04 pm EST
Mark, as one of your "straight" friends from way back, I found the video informing, funny, as tasteful as possible while being frank as hell, and very subtle in encouraging tolerance toward others. Your tone and tack derail those that feign anger at your frankness. You've been a highly creative guy since high school and you've just added education, intelligence, frankness and real world experience. You don't have to be gay to "get the message" either. Unprotected sex with ANYONE who is not been in a LONG term committed and monogamous relationship is just not smart. Take those odds to Vegas... Keep up the provocatively entertaining work pal... Angels on your shoulders.

Comment by: Brian (Atlanta, GA) Thu., Jan. 29, 2009 at 3:42 pm EST
As always I find your blog entertaining as well as informative. I want to thank for your honest approach into your life and sharing it with the rest of us. Being a positive gay man who has faced some of these same sexual aspects and not shared them with many others, it is refreshing to hear that you are faced with the same issues. Again thank you and keep up the good work.

Comment by: Morris Williams (London) Thu., Jan. 29, 2009 at 3:29 pm EST
Even you are shy when it comes to the moment. You're right, the sex pig is dead.

Comment by: Tuta Veloso (Fort Lauderdale, FL) Thu., Jan. 29, 2009 at 1:26 pm EST
Hey Mark.. You make me laugh with your "GLORY HOLE FOR DUMMIES". I wish you all the best always. Hope see you again in soon TUTA

Comment by: Earl (Chicago) Thu., Jan. 29, 2009 at 12:37 pm EST
Great video. Keep up the good work, Mark.

Comment by: Don (Atlanta) Thu., Jan. 29, 2009 at 12:06 pm EST
Thanks for sharing...very well put together. Good luck with all your work!

Comment by: Sue (Kansas City, MO) Thu., Jan. 29, 2009 at 10:27 am EST
Honesty, humor and reality--what a great combination!!

Comment by: Flash Thunder-Fire (Fort Lauderdle) Thu., Jan. 29, 2009 at 9:18 am EST
Great blog Mark. I love the honest and direct approach you take. Keep up the good work! There are so many people that support you and SO many more that need to hear you! All my best, Flash

Comment by: rod (denver) Thu., Jan. 29, 2009 at 7:15 am EST
i posted your link on fb today...

Comment by: eric gelman (Atlanta/ Phila) Wed., Jan. 28, 2009 at 8:29 pm EST
Very funny, but very informative at the same time and a very strong message to all.

Comment by: Sherri Lewis (Los Angeles) Wed., Jan. 28, 2009 at 7:55 pm EST
Hi Mark! We meet again! I really like seeing and listening to your blog or vlog as it were. Keep going! Sherri

Comment by: smitty (Grand Rapids) Wed., Jan. 28, 2009 at 7:13 pm EST
I really enjoyed it....and am supporting you in this....but I am struggling with my own world!

Comment by: Craig (Boston) Wed., Jan. 28, 2009 at 6:01 pm EST
The intimacy argument for barebacking was poignant and exposes the basic tragedy of being a positive addicted sex pig. The tic-tac was a refreshingly nice touch that got that sweet taste out of the viewers mouth.

Comment by: VAL (LOUISIANA) Wed., Jan. 28, 2009 at 5:56 pm EST
Great blog! Serious stuff with a light touch. Thanks

Comment by: Ron Rosa (Boston, MA ) Wed., Jan. 28, 2009 at 5:50 pm EST
Hello Mark, Thank you very much for providing this educational yet humorous video. I am very proud and honored to know you. Once again Thank you, A surviving soldier in this fight, Ron

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Mark S. King

Mark S. King has been an active AIDS activist, writer and community organization leader since the early 1980s in Los Angeles. He has been an outspoken advocate for prevention education and for issues important to those living with HIV.

Diagnosed in 1985, Mark has held positions with the Los Angeles Shanti Foundation, AID Atlanta and AIDS Survival Project, and is an award-winning writer. He continues his volunteer work as an AIDS educator and speaker for conferences and events.

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